You never know what a person is going through so it’s better to be mindful of what you say. It is especially important to be mindful of our words when someone is struggling with mental illness. A person dealing with mental illness is having a difficult time trying to understand their feelings and emotions. A hurtful sentence can prevent them from expressing themselves and their problems. Indian society has a lot of stigma surrounding mental health issues. Someone dealing with mental health issues may have difficulty expressing themselves in a society where mental health issues are looked down upon. If someone you know talks to you about mental health, it’s important to hear what they’re saying and make them feel heard and loved. Ektaa Sibal, meditation expert and global health coach, believes that making typical statements like “just keep it in your head,” “don’t think about it,” can make others feel that Whatever they are experiencing or feeling is just fantasy and has no reality. This can be very harmful to someone dealing with mental health issues. Similarly, statements like “just hang out,” “let’s go to the party,” “it’s okay” are not recommended for someone dealing with a mental health issue because they make people feel uncomfortable. Others feel that everything is okay, dismissing such thoughts. It again can be very detrimental to their situation.
#LifelineSeries: Things you should never say to someone experiencing mental health problems
Making such statements can also make it difficult for a person to open up, seek support and think of ways out of the situation instead of solving it, which can be very harmful to the person dealing with the problems mental health. So, instead of saying something hurtful or ignorant, it’s better to learn and plan your words carefully when dealing with someone with a mental illness. There are certain phrases that people should avoid at all costs when talking to someone who is dealing with problems.” It’s all in your head.” This is a very famous phrase we hear in relation to mental health issues. The problems a person faces are not imaginary and not something they make up. Mental health problems are as real as heart attacks and other physical health problems. Don’t dismiss their problems and feelings. To say “it’s all in your head” is to belittle their feelings and emotions, which can be more harmful. “Try harder” They are trying. They don’t need someone who belittles their efforts. This statement can demoralize them and give them a feeling of despair. They are making an effort to seek help and share their problems with you. You need to tell them that you are always there for them and that you will do your best to help them. Ask them how you can help them feel better. “You don’t look depressed.” That’s like saying “You don’t look diabetic.” Just because you can’t see their struggles doesn’t mean they aren’t facing any struggles. Don’t be skeptical because it may make them feel bad about themselves and they may even question how they feel. Many people hide their illness with their bubbly personality. It could be because of the stigma surrounding mental illness or because of their personal choices. It’s important to keep an open mind and accept what they are saying. “Therapy is for weak people”This can be very detrimental to someone who is struggling with mental health issues. It takes a lot of courage to speak out against mental illness. If someone wants to seek help for their illness, you should not ignore it, instead, you should appreciate them for speaking up and seeking help. What to say instead Here are some things you can say to someone dealing with mental health issues. How can I help you? Do you want to talk about it? I’m here for you. I’m really sorry you’re going through this. I’m here to help if you need me. Talk to me, I’m listening. Do you want my opinion or do you want me to listen? You will get through it. I’m here for you.
