Adultery is one of the controversial topics in India emotionally, morally, socially, ethically and legally. Couples try to develop connection in different ways in their relationship to meet their physical, mental and emotional needs, and try to be good partners for a life harmony. An intimate relationship does not go as well as expected due to many reasons such as lack of understanding, lack of quality time, lack of romance, dominating and controlling the partner, any form of abuse, neglect falling apart, showing little interest in each other’s interests or passions all lead to disappointment in the relationship and become the key to building a relationship. Although there is no reason that can justify infidelity, it still happens often. A decade ago, men prosecuted other men for cheating on their wives and were punished for similar complicity in India. Women seem to be at par with men in terms of infidelity rates with the legalization of adultery in India in September 2018. Common reasons for infidelity are revenge, general unhappiness in life marriage, physical or emotional distance when spouse moves to a distant workplace, economic dependence or financial pressure, unsatisfactory sex life or physical intimacy, expectations high or unrealistic, low compatibility, lack of communication or disrespect. According to a survey by The New Indian Express, lack of sexual intimacy in married life is an important reason for seeking extramarital relationships. Layton-Tholl (2003) found that 90% of women involved in extramarital relationships found their emotional needs were not met within the marital relationship. The three aspects behind women’s problems are internal factors, marital discord and sexuality (Shima Messripour, 2016).Read more: October health astrology prediction: ‘Taurus, Scorpio may experience digestive problems’Women’s perceptions of husbands’ psychological problems such as poor relationship skills, aggression, and impulsive behavior lead to women’s infidelity. Poor relationships, marital conflicts, and interpersonal factors are the causes behind wife infidelity (Pizarro & Gaspay-Fernandez, 2015; Messripour et al., 2016; Apostolou, 2019) . According to the Big Five personality traits, poor self-control, selfishness, anger, and boredom with seeking attention are the most common reasons why a person is unfaithful in their relationship. 2-3 years of studying longitude. According to research, wives high in Extraversion are more likely to be unfaithful. Wives married to someone high in Neuroticism or Extraversion are more likely to cheat (Atlgelt et al. 2018). Gleeden is a free extra-marital dating app platform developed specifically for women aiming at a safe space to find friendship, love, sex and support launched in India in 2017. The first year of launch had 25% of users being Indian women and 30% in year 2 and reported a +112.5% increase in the Indian community since March 2020 and got 900,000 new subscribers from India in 2 years (as of May 2022) including 60% male and 40% female. in the survey, they found that about 48% of users are educated and financially independent urban women between the ages of 30 and 60 across the country. Cheating women are easily trapped, abused, and even threatened with private photos and videos, which is very common in recent days. They tend to blindly trust the cheating man to keep it a secret for life or until they want to continue the affair. Comment on a Spanish proverb that the secret between three people is the secret of all. Once a secret is shared beyond one couple involving a third person, it becomes news to everyone else. In the early stages, this may seem exciting and rejuvenating to the women involved, but as time goes on, the consequences become unmanageable as it is revealed among family members, partners, and friends. children. It completely destroys women’s emotional and mental health. Additionally, women develop brain fog when considering their reproductive safety measures. Women are at greater risk when using oral contraceptives or injections for contraception and face side effects that affect their physiological condition. Do not use birth control pills or injections long-term. Sometimes unwanted pregnancies and abortions lead to them having to break up their extramarital affairs. The long-term effects of abortion are again a physical and psychological obstacle for women. In these situations, women feel victimized, guilty, helpless, stressed, anxious and depressed. Some experiences result in interpersonal hindrance due to problems such as guilt (Spanier & Margolis, 1983) and depression (Beach et al., 1985), lying to keep secrets, reducing low self-esteem (Shackelford, 2001) poses a risk for mental health problems (Cano & Leary, 2000; Allen et al., 2005) Read more: Your strengths and weaknesses, based on your zodiac signWays to prevent infidelity are as follows: • Every couple needs to understand that a relationship sometimes requires selflessness on the part of both men and women. Gary Chapman’s The Five Love Languages (1992) focuses on different love languages. It is essential to have open communication and an understanding of your partner’s love language and to share love and appreciation. • According to Maslow’s famous Hierarchy Theory, sex is considered one of the physiological needs along with air, food, water and shelter in adulthood. The couple must maintain an active and enjoyable sex life, understand their life goals, cultural differences and the belief systems they adhere to, and set appropriate boundaries. • Spending quality time with your partner will help build an emotional bond between them. Social comparison must be avoided. Being romantic, paying attention to appearance, and sharing love in their own language will create a strong bond. • If a couple finds it difficult to understand their love language and is unhappy, they can see or seek professional help from a psychologist or a qualified marriage counselor. Counseling sessions clarified understanding of self- and other-awareness, beliefs and values, financial management, parenthood, and roles and responsibilities in creating readiness for raising children. Overall, premarital counseling or couples therapy reduces stress, increases satisfaction, and helps reduce factors that contribute to infidelity. This article is written by Dr. Nisha Khanna, Senior Consultant – Consulting Psychologist, Clinical Psychology, Max Multi Specialty Center, Panchsheel Park.
